"True, your stutter is a part of you but it should not run your life. If you allow it to take control, you can never find the real person behind the defensive facade you continually hide behind." Jon Symons
Showing posts with label life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label life. Show all posts
When things are going wrong
It helps to think about what is right and good in your life at times that everything seems to be going wrong. Make a list of everything good and you’ll feel better. Then, make a list of the things that need changing and think of solutions to them.
Stuttering and suicidal thoughts
It is sad to see posts online by people who stutter saying that they wish they never had been born or that they are considering ending their lives because of their stuttering. Family members and peers need to reassure anyone who stutters that they are important and they are able to be an asset to society even though the stutter. There is help for stuttering, and the list of Famous People who Stutter on the web site of the Stuttering Foundation proves that you can do anything you want to do in life even if you stutter. My guess is that many of the people who have these types of thoughts are teens. Being a teenager is a hard time in a person's life. There is so much stress in being between a child and an adult, getting ready to leave home, trying to do well in school if you want to go on to college, trying to get a job (hard enough for those who speak well), and so many other things.
Talk to your parents, pastor, and/or counselor about your feelings and worries.
Get help for your stuttering - the Stuttering Foundation has free online books and videos plus referrals to speech therapists almost anywhere.
Put your emphasis on your strengths; think about what you do well; develop those areas as you may find that the less you think about your stuttering the less you will stutter.
Go ahead and talk; stutter on through what you have to say; don't try NOT to stutter.
Realize that everyone has something that they consider a limitation in their life; some just are not easily seen like stuttering.
Parents; get help for your child as early as possible so he/she doesn't have this happen to him/her.
Talk to your parents, pastor, and/or counselor about your feelings and worries.
Get help for your stuttering - the Stuttering Foundation has free online books and videos plus referrals to speech therapists almost anywhere.
Put your emphasis on your strengths; think about what you do well; develop those areas as you may find that the less you think about your stuttering the less you will stutter.
Go ahead and talk; stutter on through what you have to say; don't try NOT to stutter.
Realize that everyone has something that they consider a limitation in their life; some just are not easily seen like stuttering.
Parents; get help for your child as early as possible so he/she doesn't have this happen to him/her.
Feelings and stuttering
From "Sometimes I Just Stutter" by The Stuttering Foundation
When you feel sad or angry about your stuttering...People get mad when things go wrong. When you try to do something and you fail again and again, you may be in a very bad temper. People also get to feeling sad inside when things keep going wrong for them.You would not mind being punished... once in a while by your parents or your teacher. But if that happened every day, you would feel upset or angry or both.
Grown-ups usually don’t show their anger or their sorrow openly. But if you observe them carefully, you will notice it anyway. They may be more quiet than usual, or they may find fault with everything or want to be alone. Stuttering every once in a while is no big deal. But if talking gets to be hard very often, you may get mad. Mad at your mouth. Mad at the stuttering. You start to hate it. Perhaps talking gets so hopelessly difficult that it makes you feel sad inside. Sad about your stuttering. People cry when they feel sad. Perhaps you were told not to act like a cry baby but to be brave and strong. But stuttering can feel so bad that it is OK to cry about it. That’s nothing to be ashamed of. And it is quite alright to be angry at your stuttering and to hate it. If you express how angry or how sad you are by shouting and stamping your feet or by having a good cry, you will feel a lot better. Perhaps you don’t want other people to know about these feelings. Then why don’t you express them in a place where nobody can see or hear you? But it’s even better to share your feelings with other people. That will make things easier all around.
Don’t be ashamed. Whatever happens, do NOT start blaming yourself. Because it’s not your fault that you stutter.
When you feel sad or angry about your stuttering...People get mad when things go wrong. When you try to do something and you fail again and again, you may be in a very bad temper. People also get to feeling sad inside when things keep going wrong for them.You would not mind being punished... once in a while by your parents or your teacher. But if that happened every day, you would feel upset or angry or both.
Grown-ups usually don’t show their anger or their sorrow openly. But if you observe them carefully, you will notice it anyway. They may be more quiet than usual, or they may find fault with everything or want to be alone. Stuttering every once in a while is no big deal. But if talking gets to be hard very often, you may get mad. Mad at your mouth. Mad at the stuttering. You start to hate it. Perhaps talking gets so hopelessly difficult that it makes you feel sad inside. Sad about your stuttering. People cry when they feel sad. Perhaps you were told not to act like a cry baby but to be brave and strong. But stuttering can feel so bad that it is OK to cry about it. That’s nothing to be ashamed of. And it is quite alright to be angry at your stuttering and to hate it. If you express how angry or how sad you are by shouting and stamping your feet or by having a good cry, you will feel a lot better. Perhaps you don’t want other people to know about these feelings. Then why don’t you express them in a place where nobody can see or hear you? But it’s even better to share your feelings with other people. That will make things easier all around.
Don’t be ashamed. Whatever happens, do NOT start blaming yourself. Because it’s not your fault that you stutter.
The need to share your feelings
Those who stutter find that it helps to be able to talk with others who also stutter. Being part of a support group of understanding people allows you to vent your feelings and frustrations as well as to gain a feeling of self-worth when you find out you are not the only one who stutters and that others have "made it" with the same thing. Young children find it easier to express their feelings, sometimes, by drawing pictures or writing letters to someone they don't know, especially if it is hard to talk about their stuttering. The Stuttering Foundation of America devotes a page of their web site and part of their newsletter to space for young children to share with others. Click on "Kids Page" on the link list to the right to see the web page. From the home page, you can download the most recent newsletter.
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